So, my mother is in the nursing home with Medicare about to run out. My father wants to take her home. Then my sister announces that she is going out of town for 9 days to take my neice to Colorado. Nine days? What is she going to do, take her first semester classes with her?  My husband says that his aunt, who's behavior my sister is replicating, used to do the same thing; leave town with very little notice. Don't people take their kids in late Aug.? Actually, people at my husband's work says that this is actually late to register for classes. Couldn't they do that online? Can't these people do anything in this state?  My mother was to go home on Friday. She wanted me to help them. Sure, no problem. My sister was complaining that she 'had' to go to the nursing home on Monday when they had some sort of meeting to see if they would recommend to Medicare that my mother stay on. They weren't going to because she wasn't progressing enough in physical therapy to justify it. I've never seen anyone kicked out of PT for not doing well, but I've seen people get more PT for not doing well. I told her that I asked my father over and over if I should go because I caught up with work at the moment and we didn't have anywhere we had to go. He told me no. "Does that sound fair", she said in her best preachy voice. Fair or not, that's what happened. Like my husband says, what does she want me to do about it?"  "I had to cancel my clients. That means I don't get paid". I can't believe anyone would pay her anyway. We looked up the website and the line of bull that's on it about her is going to make a heck of a post.

She said something like, "I did such and such, now it's your turn". Then she hung up. I do not tolerate being treated like that. I called her up, and like my father always points out, her cell phone or the phone at their house is always answered by a machine. It's been years and years years. So, I left her a message that said that it sounded like she hung up on me, and if she did, please don't do that again. For once I sounded firm with her.

I then got on the phone for something else. She left me a phone message for which guilt-inducing Catholic nuns and priests could use as a training film. I tried so hard to get it on a hosting site and put a link to it. I want so bad for people to hear what she sounds like because you simply wouldn't believe it. If you want, e-mail me at JSanto7134@aol.com and I will send you the file because that might work. She told me that I should be ashamed of myself and my lifestyle and how I treat my family. She told me that what I am doing justifies her taking control of the whole situation. She said that if my father took her home, she would use all her money to sue him.

Well, needless to say I was a little mad. I could no longer take the punitive, condesending tone. I left her three breathless messages (happens when I get REALLY STEAMED!). I mentioned the cruises, the Catholic elementary school for two kids. I told her that she could be Al Haig and be in charge of the whole world if she wanted to, but I am never speaking to her again. I also mentioned that if she was the perfect daughter, why did she only stay 45 min. on what was obviously going to be mom's last Christmas when she was somewhat coherent. She tried calling, Craig, whose birthday she blew off, a topic for another post) answered and said, "This is the downstairs butler, Madam' cannot come to phone right now. I'm sorry, but if you want to leave a message for her, we have a special line for biatches". I helped him with the butler part, but I swear he made up the last part all by himself . A chip off the old block. She tried again and he answered in an accent, "You have reached the Budhist Temple..." That was entirely his. Then I blocked her e-mail address.  I made an outgoing message for the answering machine. "Today my dear sister infomed me that I should be ashamed of my behavior and my lifestyle (said in a shame-on-me- tone). Pause....

I'M BRITNEY SPEARS!  And I didn't even know it! So, naturally I'm out clubbing. Then I'm going to buy something really expensive for my dog. And these nails!..If you can think up anything suggestions, please leave them after the beep. And if my downstairs maid doesn't give me the message pronto, she is totally fired......because I might be Donald Trump too!

Then I arranged for our phone company to be switched to Comcast the following Monday because they can block calls from specific numbers and that service isn't available in our area from our then provider.

Friday came and my husband was going to help us move my mom. Then my father called unexpectedly and told me that Medicare had approved another two weeks. He was really happy. Do you think it's a coincidence that my pesty, demanding, accusatory sister was going to blow town and suddenly they decided not to kick my mother out?  I wasn't going to cover for her/hide it any longer. I told my father everything; about how she was going to sue him and everything she said. I went on Friday as usual and the unit director was especially nice to me. I was sure that my sister told them that I'm a derelict daughter, but they have had to deal with her. They know.