Dontcha just hate it when a coworker that you don't really like comes up and unload all their relationship problems on you for some odd reason. Don't get me wrong, I'll listen, I'll give my advice if you want it and I'll offer a shoulder to cry on even if I hate every ounce of your being. However, Do not get pissey with me when I offer my opinion about the situation. My coworker, we'll call her M comes up to me one day and unleashes holy hell about her boyfriend of ten years. She recently discovered that he's cheating on her again. She's telling me the story and I can't help but chuckle. I suppose it wasn;t the most appropriate thing but then she says "This isn't -bleeep-ing funny! It hurts like hell. If you've ever had it done to you, you wouldn't laugh." Now stop right there. As far as I know every woman on the face of the planet has been lied to, beaten, cheated on or worse according to everyone you speak to. Whether it's true or not I have no idea, but this has happened to everyone. The difference in between me and them is how I handled it compared to how they handled it.

Or rather the difference is..that I did handle it and they did not. I don't put up with that crap. Anyone who does is silly and is the cause for their own dang misery. I've been in and out of several relationships. Given not all of them bad. I've been in two abusive relationships, neither of which lasted long and I've been cheated on dozens of times. I don't take it. My ex hit me and I ended the relationship then and there no questions asked and stated that if he ever layed another hand on me, I'd see to it that he never reproduces. The other guy...I hit back and then left. Anyone who cheats on me and I find out there are no excuses, no "I'm sorry baby it'll never happen again" 's  nothing. I simply get out.

She's been dating him supposedly for ten years and she;s still with him after all that crap. She has the power to stop it very easily. Which is worse afterall..crying after breaking up with him, or staying with him and being miserable for the rest of your life? I watched my mother get cheated on a abused for several years until she'd had enough and left. I swore that would never be me. I also stated that I'd never give second chances after watching my sister and friends get back together with the same @$$ hole that had broken up with and then wind up in the same situation. It was a viscious cycle that I swore Id never get into and I haven't.

I just don't understand where this "Woe is me" crap comes from when I've been there and I stopped that crap once it started. I don't put up with it, why do they?

Is it because they want people to feel sorry for them, do they like the attention. I don't feel sorry for people like them because they are doing it to themselves. No M, I won't feel sorry for you. What you're doing to yourself is stupid..and I'm allergic to stupid. Suck it and start wearing the big girl pants. You are incontrol of your life and only you can make yourself feel small.

Dump the guy and then get over it.