Hands of Fate

I have been doing some thinking and relfecting lately, and it strikes me as strange sometimes how things tend to work out. It is the strangeness of events and encounters that leads me to belive that there really are no true conincidences or accidents, but that there is another force envoled, a guiding force that helps lead the course of things. That everything happens for a reason. I see it as being like little milestones fate has left to lead up to one particular event.

As an example of what I mean, the odds are that if I never had met Eric (my ex) and ended up having that disaster with him then I would probaly neveer would have turned to the pagan personals in my quest to make a new life for myself and then I would never have met Matthew. I see it almost as if somehow Eric was needed in order to get me to where I needed to be to discover what I was really looking for. Fate put him there in my way, though unlike what I had oringally thought it was not becasue he was the one who was to be my soul mate but becasue it was being with him that made me realize that I was at a time in my life where I was really ready to have a life comonapion, and that is what led mt to seek the service of personal ads. If I had never met Eric then I probaly would have the same attitude I did before him, before Eric I never acutally made any effort to truly meet anyone I just figured if it was ment to happen then it would happen. But after Eric I sort of gained a new prespective and thought I still put my trust in fate I decided that if I really wanted to be with someone then I would have to put myself out there and be active in finding them. And now I am with Matthew, and I am very hopeful for our future together, he is an amazing guy and very good to me. Though this is a more exereme example little things like this happen all the time, sometimes they may be small sometimes they may be big. But everything that happens does so precisesly becasue of the steps leading up to that moment.

Another examaple is how I met my now best friend Fred, one day one a whim when I was bored I decided that I would make an aol blog, it was the first blog I had ever done, and before that point I was never really into blogs and had no real intrest in having one but then I was just like what the hell and made one to give me something to do, it was becasue I had made that blog that I then stumbled upon Freds blog and it caught my eye so I read it and ended up leaving a comment and at this point my blog was still new so I told him to check it out sometime, well he happend to IM me after reading my comment and from there we just really hit it off and discovered a lot in common and are now really close friends.

Though I do belive in free will and that we can alter our courses by the actions we choose, and I do not think everything we do is pre-ordained I do think there is some fate envoled and perhaps somethings that are just ment to happen, and obsticels, or stepping stones, or other people are put in our path to help lead us to these things. Though ultimately I think the individual still has the right to decide what they are going to do and are not led by puppets. For example though the event with Eric is what led me to the peronsal ads I do not thing anything acutally forced me to use them, I think that was my own decision, just the thought of doing so would never have even been there if I had not had that experince. Same thing with Fred, I do not think I was forced by anything to make a blog, that choice was my own, but there were perhaps other things that led me the moment where I would even consider doing so.

1:56 PM - 6/21/2006 - post comment

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I'd have to say I agree with that. Fate has a way of guiding us, leading us into a certain direction. Some things are just 'meant' to happen inspite of free will

Edited by Soraya on 6/22/2006 at 6:51 AM

Soraya - 2:50 AM - 6/22/2006

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