The other day I caught the ending of a radio broadcast about settling.  The guest's opinion on the show was that after a certain age a person should not spend so much time searching for the perfect someone and that they should settle for what they find out there.  Settle??!!!  Why would anyone settle?  She even set an age limit...after the age of 40.  What happens to us after 40?  Are we no longer desirable?  Granted I believe by that age we are more set in our ways, not so willing to change, but isn't that because we have matured over the years and know what has made us comfortable and hopefully happy?  Or is she saying that the men out there that are single are losers and if we haven't found the perfect someone by then, it's just not going to happen?  I wish I would have caught the entire program.

I met my husband at the age of 45.  I wasn't searching, it just happened.  We met by chance.  After talking for hours on the first encounter we found we had so much in common.  We were also able to tell each other our faults, what we expect in a relationship, what we weren't willing to change and what we weren't.  Because of this we entered our relationship with open eyes knowing what the other was like and not just a physcial reaction like when we were young.  We knew we weren't going change.  Take it or leave it.  I didn't settle.  His faults were the same as mine, his likes were the same as mine.  I found my soulmate.

I have talked to others about this and they agree that they would rather be alone then to settle with just anyone.  Being alone is not a bad thing.  Loneliness is the killer.  I know single people that are so busy with their interests, and meeting new people that they never experience loneliness.  Will they find their soulmate eventually?  One woman thinks she did, she's 58, but she's  not really willing to commet at this time.  She wants to make sure he's perfect.  If not...life goes on and she's happy because she hasn't settled.