People just keep on hurrying along. In one project to the next, to a different house, a fresh relationship, a new job, another vacation; to 'something different'. People are forever busy organizing, planning, ensuring everything keeps running smoothly. This juggling act continues day-in, day-out... and again, another season, another year is long gone. Lots of people have long since activated next year's calendar. The subsequent summer vacation was already booked! People in many cases don't discuss their hurried lifestyles. It just keeps mounting up as well as their calendar gets filled to overflowing. Ab muscles young are particularly vulnerable to having full activity planners. There is definitely a necessity to express oneself, to merely talk, divulge heart's contents to someone and unwind, but there doesn't seem be any moment for that.
Do you still need here we are at a chat? There is always something, an action, quite simply, reasons why that is not possible... busy, busy. Fortunately, it will soon be Christmas again, 'good times'!
People speak with me regarding their experiences: "When I mention 'it', We have lost, or will suffer, my balance. Then I won't be able to control myself and lose my grip."
Or: 'I have given off all kinds of signals but That's not me being heard. Used to do actually voice it out, nevertheless it wasn't heard. Nobody hears me. I probably weren't clear enough. This sense have a tendency to grow after a while and are available to manipulate me, which turns this sort of feeling into fixed images and so appear to become exclusive. It's just like a barrier has been thrown up after which I'm not sure the way to break through anymore. It is just a weird vicious loop that somehow or another I know, also from experience, may be broken, but right now I'm not sure how or when. It can be transforming into a pattern in my life. I really may want to be invited because of it, or that somebody generates a circumstance, a climate. There needs to be somebody there who hears me. Who listens in a manner that makes me speak. Because there are always reasons never to express myself, never to approach, call or mail the other person, or (I realize, really old-fashioned) to merely write a letter." Many individuals think it is much better to deliver a positive message, to simply casually remark that you've experienced, bought or done something nice, funny, or enjoyable, as an alternative to to offer voice to some sad or impressive feeling.
When you're not satisfied regarding how you have yourself there's often a thing that holds you back. Something which throws you back on your individuality, on yourself, into your own environment, into isolation. It appears just like you don't feel the need for other people and you set out to withdraw into yourself. Shutting yourself in, turning inward, as the should be 'together' is actually quite strong. This need, however, is dismissed as 'Oh well, the times of year are changing, it's a period where I'm vulnerable and sensitive.' Or: 'Leave me be, this is simply generate income am.' Or 'just take me like me.'
It's just the individuals who claim that, who make these statements, that don't desire to left alone. They need to sit quietly together and somebody to 'really' listen to them. They want to think and talk together regarding their experiences without the need to solve absolutely anything. Just reflection in moments of cherishing, realisation and silence.
Strange, is it not, to communicate in without moaning!
Many, many people speak without moaning. Just tune in to yourself. You possess many, long conversations yourself with your 'internal language', within your musings. The conversation with yourself deserves being given to others. With folks nobody and sincerely need to be together with you. With those people which talk to you without imposing themselves or looking to shoulder your opinions. There are those who really take an interest.
These conversations tend to be moments of insight and growth. Really personal, intimate and precious moments. Experiences that you simply later look back on and feel warmly about. Those forms of evenings that seem to fly past; "is it this late already... ?'
Then you will get the words, know why then when, and it'll make no difference what's being said. Then it can come from the inside of and will also feel perfectly. Exactly what comes spontaneously from within on your own is good, is worthwhile. That should come naturally. To never yet fully know however, somehow, know inside. Your lover fosters that knowledge through listening along with the conversation, which provides you space. Space to communicate in and stay heard at multiple levels. You will automatically speak your own language. And also this refers to entrepreneurs, managers and executives. But also to doctors and relief workers. Which is the language that many others would also love to listen to from you. Real language is self-explanatory.