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a groan will reach the throneJune 21, 2008
Personally, i feel there's a pressure to sound perpetually happy on blogs. And even when one's unhappy, one (i feel) has to sound nevertheless strong and encouraged. To hell with all this. Right now, i'm downright unhappy. I feel sad and lonely and bleak and i want to hide under the covers all day and not bathe. But i don't want to be like that. Unhappiness is hardly a state of mind i enjoy being in. It's just less tiring because fighting negativity is akin to fighting a losing battle.

Nevertheless, i shall try what Jane always does, and that is to make a list of things/events to cry over, and to be happy about. Let's hope it works...

CURSES
  • My period has not come for 2 months. Before that, it came twice a month. So basically, i went from being overly fertile to sterile. My father forced me to go to the doctor who gave me Diane 35...i'm not sure whether i can blame all my ills on it, but it's a bitter pill to swallow.
  • I'm constipated. What's worse is that after taking laxatives which my father procured for me, my digestive system is still jammed up.
  • Because of the frustration, i stare at the mirror frequently in self-loathing and frustration which leads to needless scratching and poking. And suddenly, from having perfectly clear skin, i now have broken skin all over my face which doesn't heal because i keep touching and peeling it. So presently i look hideous.
  • Currently i have no social life. I cancel on friends frequently. Either that, or i go out and am so short and curt, or look at them blankly because it's too much of an effort to listen and laugh...they probably wish i had cancelled anyway.
  • I can't stop eating. After championing the benefits of a "balanced lifestyle", whatever that is, ironically i keep eating biscuits and cookies and junk. I try to compensate by eating fruits and healthy stuff, but they don't seem as palatable these days so i turn to lovely processed comfort food. Which leads to
  • Weight gain. This is immensely frustrating. Since work started i've gained 2kg, and there's just no way i can exercise more or eat less because of the abovementioned events. It's only been THREE weeks. What's going to happen to the rest of my life?
I am sufficiently reminded of the reasons why i am unhappy. Though they don't spring to mind, i'm sure i've things to be grateful about nevertheless...

BLESSINGS
  • I'm happy and satisfied with what university has given me. I graduate without regrets.
  • I have a job. I'm pretty sure most of my law friends are thankful for this as well.
  • I have a job that i like and find interesting, as of now.
  • I like (most of) the people at work.
  • I'm still reasonably fit and healthy, and look it.
  • My friends have not cut off ties with me just yet. They are as busy with work/school and life.
  • My father is trying his best to be understanding.
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Untitled CommentJune 22, 2008
Are you too stressed? How can you gain weight when you lost so much?? Also, just leave the constipation. Drink more water. You will shit when you feel like it. ;) Probably all those irregular meal times confused your gut. And i think you look good, so chill already. As for your period, best to seek the opinion of a good doctor. Taking more medications ain't the answer! What is your BMI? Are you on the low side??
Posted by Mag

Untitled CommentJune 27, 2008
does it feel better? it puts things in a bit of perspective doesnt it. I'm so glad the weekend is coming. i hope the week got better for u :)
Posted by jane

Untitled CommentJune 28, 2008
kah ming, i totally understand what you mean when you feel this need to sound perpetually happy on blogs. do otherwise, and people think that you do nothing but whine, or am totally emo. which is why i blog less frequently now, and usually only about 'unimportant' things.

i hope you start to feel better soon, and i have to agree with Mag; judging from the pics of you on this blog, i think you look good! honest to God! and there is a bit of feminity about you too. and you are NOT FAT in any way!
Posted by qing ying

Untitled CommentJune 28, 2008
also, even though you may feel terrible only after three weeks, and you think the rest of your life will be terrible, i think i can safely say that it won't. remember what happened to me last dec? i felt so bad it was like dying. i thought i would never get over it and i would feel this way forever. i saw my life as an endless, empty road with no happiness ahead, only bleakness.

but somehow, i got over it. things always get better. things will change. :)
Posted by qing ying

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