2/12/2010
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Live the complexities in and of life - a pscyhologist's point of view
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If you allow people to dictate how you live your life then you have not lived it, they have. Do not be a puppet on a string, do not be a passenger on a ship, be the master and captain of your life... and don't let perpetrators ruin your one chance to live your life fully. Remember that those that try to pull your spirits down are only unnecessary vexations in life, they do not matter. There had been instances when people you seem to know but do not know you tend to test your strength and ability to hold up. Making up stories about the person you are not and spreading the news like wildfire making them known to every single person just so they could get the others' confidence and trust. Or maybe they just wanted to irk you to unearth the whole truth when you freak out knowing a false rumor has been all around and you were the last person to know. It's called tactics. It's called information manipulation. It's called gossip. It's called work-of-a-person-who-has-no-life-of-his-own. Indeed pathetically sounding but obviously abundant in nature, especially amongst people who live busy lives or pretend to have their hands full. Also true amongst men and women who have motives to climb up the ladder and just simply want to pull people down in fear of losing their most preciously coveted throne in society. In other words, crab mentality. Remember the crabs in the basket? I have lived twenty seven long years on this Earth and by chance of luck have gone through some grueling experiences with people of such character. I have learned my lesson well in college to get affected. I am not after all just a psycho major graduate for nothing. So these mind games cannot alter my perceptions and convictions. Here are my thoughts and analysis then. As a shrink would put it, the behavior is called "superiority complex" whereby a human being with predominant characteristics of some if not all of the above-mentioned personality traits are manifesting the tendencies to become self-over-indulgent, egocentric, manipulative (of information, peers, family, colleagues, etc.), unnecessary paranoia leading to false notions and downright conclusions over things, actions and pieces of information, with the deliberate intent to exalt one's self into the pedestal or hierarchy of things, and the ability to make all things that are in his way as minuscule and insignificant in comparison to his stature. Manifestations of this type of neuro-psychosis includes but is not limited to verbally elevating oneself in midst of peers groups or in any possible interaction between two or more people with the tendencies to insinuate others are of lesser ability and/or value than himself, mockery, bullying and pinning down of others, amongst many. As Wikipedia puts it, Superiority complex refers to a subconscious neurotic mechanism of compensation developed by the individual as a result of feelings of inferiority. The feelings of inferiority in this specific complex are often brought on by real or perceived social rejection. So then, this stems from the feelings of either a realistic case of rejection of that said individual possessing this defense mechanism or just a paranoia in the mind. Often times this roots back to the earlier years in a person's life wherein a specific occurrence of rejection from family or friends may have taken place. A grandfather who may have iterated how poorly one was in comparison to his siblings or a father's consistent and condescending disapproval of the child's deeds resulting to reprimand or castigation. This is also possible and true even in the school setting, wherein a person could have been bullied by peers through verbal or physical assault. What is then therefore our present is just a manifestation of our past. Then it boils down to how our consciousness overrides our subconsciousness and unconsciousness. If our adult selves allow for these primordial experiences to lead us on to living our current lives in retribution and vengeance then we do have the tendencies to impose the same fear and manipulation on others just as we have experienced them. It's called passing on. It's called not getting over the past. It's called fixation. But if we have the conscious effort to make our lives better than it was before then this is not an occurrence we expect to see today. It's called moving on. It's called letting go. However people may take it, whether clinically as a diagnosis or personally as insinuation, we all have our alter egos with this archetypal defense mechanism which systematically shields our persona's in various ways. Whether for good or bad, we possess these traits somehow. Lucky for those who know how to control it and use it for the good and only for benefit of the many, but for those who's alter egos have overridden their conscious systems, it is already their way of life. It's already their pseudo-techniques in coping with the demands and stresses of life, passing it on to others so they may feel the same. I pity the latter. For they have lost their own true selves to that of their other selves. Whether bound by selfish motivations and quest for power and exultation, or by false means of justification of their deeds, they have succumbed to the pits of the game. They have just plainly become players. Or maybe this is really their true self, the one which is innate of the system. Then, let them play. We'll be spectators. |
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