I went to a girlfriend's wedding this evening and of course met up with the other girlfriends of mine. And when we girls meet, we do the thing we do best-gossip. Ah well. It was news that someone is going to get engaged early next month. I jolly well know the individual but I feigned ignorance when her name was mentioned. and comically looked puzzled. Yeah, of course I was invited, but I do not consider it an official one as 1. It was by word of mouth and 2. I am oh-so-well connected; I am on her Friendster list, 2.1. We know each other friends and hey, you could always get my number from any of them. If one wants to sincerely invite,one would go all means eh?

So now I wonder, was the invitation out of courtesy or just for the sake of inviting or announcing to the world that Hey, I am getting hitched!

Nah, I am not jealous for the fact that she is engaged and stuffs. Its good in fact. The thing is, she went silent after we graduated from secondary school. We were good friends in secondary three and four and we even looked out for jobs together after our Os. But of course we got busy and stuff and we did not often contact. But it was understandable.

I remembered contacting her, after the start of the Poly semester, asking her how stuffs and all. Well, I guess if one has newfound friends, why bother with the old ones eh? And not oh so cool ones like me. (But hey, WHAT IS COOL eh?) I called her and we had a stunted conversation, me trying to think of something whereas she is trying to get off the phone as fast as possible. I felt foolish at that moment.

So the thing is now, out of the fucking blue, she decided to invite her friends (unofficially) to her engagement. I may be wrong, but this is oh so superficial. We had not contacted for years ( I am almost done with 2 institutions of higher learning and had my  fair share of the world) and suddenly she appears. GREAT COINCIDENCE eh? So I told my girlfriends : Is friendship like insurance, whereby its renewabel annually then chuck the certificate in the drawer. And in the case of this so-called friend, pops up out of the sudden blue with an unofficial, half-hearted invitation?

The thing is, I am not trying to sound petty. I may not be the most perfect friend either, but I believe in putting in at least some effort. And I definitely not one of those girls who devote each and every minute of her free time with the boyfriend. To those girls, GET A LIFE eh? And the best part, when things did not go as well  with the boyfriend, they come sprinting back to you.

So I shall conclude that, 1. Family is important. 2. Friends are too . 3. Boyfriends/Girlfriends are important. 4. Career is too 5. Spiritual strenght is a must.

Its the matter of balancing of the equation.