10/19/2006
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The whole thing about love
For example, it can take on the form of another one and let you make up for mistakes you made in the past. (Grandparents with grandchildren.The grandparents are trying to fix the problems they made with their own children or they are trying to get back the innocence of the child they once had.) It can be who can deal with you for the most time and who can put up with your bs as well as you being able to put up with their's.(This is what happens in a lot of relationships. People settle for who will settle for them. As they age together, being use to having someone there can begin to feel like love, and who am I to say it isn't) It can be something you have that looks like you or someone you love so you transfer feeling for the other to the new one. (Parents and children. They may transfer love to the child more if it looks like the other person who helped make it.) My favorites are the ones that I can't understand yet...the ones who must really love each other for no other reason than they do. I mean it could be the fact they see the same veiws. Or there is a physical attraction beyond any they have known otherwise. It could also be the abilty to talk to each other and understand the same situations. It may be the humor and attitudes they have in common keep them together. I am not sure why a lot of people love each other but I find it awful amusing. The reason I am rambling this is I watched a moment between my son and his grammy this morning that made me start to wonder. I was watching him tell her he loves her from the bus stop and I was thinking what makes him think that? I mean I can get why he does...he is young and still thinks we know everything and he kind of idolizes us (for a few more years, I hope). But at the same time she is the fun grammy who lets him run through the house (though she makes it a point not to let them do it with scissors). That's a cause for love in a child's eyes. She introduces him to things I never think about doing. And she beams on him. Three very good reasons for him to "love" her, but I don't think that those are the reasons or the feelings he has. I think the things he loves her for and the way he loves her are a lot simpler than that. He knows she is not perfect by any means, but he accepts her and chooses to accept that as part of who she is. That makes him love her. If all people could accept peoples flaws and try to understand the things they don't, love and forgivness would come a lot easier. And blame and fear would be harder to maintain. Acceptance is a magical tool. It can make people be better, worse or just themselves, but it is the only way to truely know people. You have to accept them for who they are without judgement and then you will get to know the real person they are, not just the front they have up for people. |
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