If a man is very careful in his examination of a woman and her behaviors, he just might get a "heads up," a clue that she is interested in him. Here are three such situations:

1. If she asks for help in any way, such as, "Excuse me, could you help me figure the tip on this bar tab. I’ve never had one before. What about the tax? Is it still 15 percent, like for food?" She is expressing her feminine need to fulfill a man’s psychological need to feel like a hero to a woman. You’ll be attracted to her neediness and you’re your ability to solve a problem for her (and by her expressed appreciation).

2. If she simply stays within your vision field or returns again and again to that place, where you keep seeing her. She is making herself available to you, to whom she is specifically attracted, so that you can take the masculine action of approaching her and so she can practice the receptive, feminine role of responding to your masculine pursuit of her. She is confident that she is some combination of femininity, beauty, and classy sexiness that you will eventually notice and approach if you are the kind of man she hopes you are.

1. If she seems thoughtful at times, almost distracted, so that you might fear she was bored and drifting mentally during your date. Instead, she may well be seriously considering, even on a first date, how well you seem to match the characteristics of a guy she could be interested in longer-term. If, after this period of thoughtfulness, she reconnects with you and is upbeat and enthusiastic (or even just calm yet happy to be with you), you have passed some attraction test and are, at least  until she gets to know you better, someone she has attraction for and wants to see again.

My questions for you:

• To women: What do you do, to flirt with men to let them know you are interested?

• To men: What is it that women do that you interpret as showing some interest in you?

Ask yourself: what do you want most in my life? What I found in my research, and what it was certainly true for myself was that most women want both love and marriage more than anything else in their lives. If this true for you, then I suggest the following top five resolutions.

1. Make your first resolution of 2007 to find love and marriage this year: Make it your highest priority: focus on love and marriage as a goal, spend time working toward that goal, and be willing to spend money on accomplishing that goal.

2. Be more sexy, not sexual (unless youre in a committed relationship). Remember: sex does not get you married; sexy attracts the attention of men. Always be classy in your sexiness, to attract Good Men.

3. Work out to attract Good Men to you. Although this may not be politically correct to say, I believe your third resolution is to work out to attract Good Men to you, since men are so visual. Dont chase men, as I did so unsuccessfully. Instead, attract them to you with your femininity and beauty. And spend money on your clothes, your makeup, and your health in order to be more beautiful. We women are lucky. When we work on our beauty, men will also tend to see as more feminine and secy. Or if were more feminine, theyll also see us as sexier and more beautiful. Work on any ONE of these areas and men will see you as more ATTRACTIVE in all THREE areas.

4. Lose weight until you are at your most attractive weight. Not skinny or too thin, but your best, healthiest, most attractive weight. My fourth suggestion is again, not very politically correct---but it is practically correct. Again, we have to remember that since men are so visual, they are attracted to a woman who is at her best---her most attractive---weight. You need a plan---not a diet---to get and maintain your best, most attractive weight, in order to be ATTRACTIVE and ATTRACT the mans eyes. My American Geisha Weigh Loss Plan has nothing to do with food, calories, and portion sizes: thats a diet, and diets dont work.  My plan focuses on just two things: record and stay aware of your weight and your exercise on a DAILY basis. Specifically, keep a daily weight and exercise chart on your refrigerator so that you are always aware and conscious on a daily and continuing basis of what your weight is and how much exercising you and doing. Staying aware is the key.

5. Date only Good Men. Do not waste your precious time dating Wrong men. In "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha," I help you to define who a Good Man is for you. You make progress toward love and marriage with a Good Man only when you date Good Men, one of whom you will ultimately choose as your husband.

Adapted from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (Hunter House)

The 2007 Top 10 American Geisha Secrets

for Single Women to Get Married

1. Biggest (number 1) secret: You need a Geisha Attitude and mentality, called "Geisha Consciousness," that use your natural femininity to attract, satisfy, and keep your man happy. Remember that yin and yang opposites (feminine and masculine) attract.
2. Be positive, optimistic, and happy as much as possible. Express the positive, optimistic and happy; show it. Enjoy dating and social events, and your life!
3. Date only Good Men. Think about the kind of man who would be a Good Man for you, and. Get into circulation in the dating pool and be receptive to being approached. But if he’s not a Good Man for you, don’t date him.
4. Attract men, don’t chase them: use your femininity, beauty, smile, clothes, and sexiness. It is too masculine to chase and hunt; be receptive. If you chase a man, you take away of his masculinity. Men should the hunt; you should be pursued by men.
5. Be nice. Most key for marriage is that he wants a nice woman. Not passive but assertive and nice. Nice means sweet. Treat him nicely and be supportive of him always, and build him up as a man.
6. Let him know you’ll never manipulate him: then don’t. Men need women to be very direct: men are not subtle. Be honest. Ask him for honesty too. Communicate your life goals including marriage (and a baby?).
7. Be a Good Woman. Have good values of your life. Be a worthy person. Know what your core beliefs are. Have integrity. Be conscious.
8. Express thanks and appreciation for what he does for you: He wants to be your hero. Boost his ego. Do this often for specific things he’s done for you.
9. Let the physical, animal you come out much more than most people do, who stay in their minds too much. Love your body. Pleasure your body. Care for your body. Be proud of your body. Get more and more in touch with the passionate, primitive, sensual qualities of your animal body. Be classy in public.
10. Satisfy him and keep him happy by having frequent, noisy orgasms of various types which you give him total verbal and emotional credit for having created.

It Is Not a Diet; but it is a Plan

The American Geisha Weight Loss Plan in 2007

I have a plan for you to lose weight while in search of love and marriage in 2007. It is Not a diet, but it is a plan to help you reach"and maintain"your most beautiful weight, not an anorexic or skinny weight, but the most comfortable, healthy, and appropriate weight for your body type.

No other "beauty factor" is as important in attracting a mans attention as achieving and maintaining your most beautiful weight. It is appropriate to emphasize weight in developing a hot and sexy American Geisha appearance because extra pounds can have such a specific and significant impact on areas of beauty throughout the body.

For now, lets just acknowledge how important the right weight"a beautiful weight for you"can be in the eyes of a Good Man, and how important that right weight can be to your own level of confidence and happiness.

Youve probably heard the research showing that over 60 percent of Americans are either fat or, worse, obese. This is an incredible fact: Six women out of ten are much too heavy for their beauty or their health. And, of course, still more women are above their best, most beautiful weight. If you are among the 20 or 30 percent of women who are at or near their best or most beautiful weight, then you will have a great advantage (an incredible one!) over those other, say, 70 percent of American women in attracting appropriate men to you.

Heres the most important and first step of the American Geisha weight loss plan that will work for you:

Sincerely convince yourself of the truth of these two affirmations in support of your 2007 resolutions to in 2007 in support of your 2007 resolutions to be married within the next 12-to-18 months:

·        I want more than anything to be in love with and married to a Good Man within twelve to eighteen months.

·        I care more about love and marriage to a Good Man than I do about food.

Because you care so much about love and marriage, beauty and sexy femininity, you will be successful in managing your weight. Then you will be at your strongest and most confident as you pursue love and marriage with your Good Man.

Adapted from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (Hunter House)

What can a guy do when his woman just doesn’t want as much sex as the guy does?

1. Talk about her emotional involvement in the relationship. Is she in love with your or not? Happy? Satisfied?
2. Let her know how important sex and emotional involvement both are to you
3. Emphasize how emotionally close to her when sex makes feel good
4. Emphasize making the relationship better and more committed, especially in the long-term
5. Tell her honestly how it hurts your male ego and sense of yourself as a man when she says, "NO"
6. Discuss whether it is the relationship or her own basic level of sexual interest that keeps your lovemaking so infrequent
7. Discuss your level of commitment and her level of sexual interest
8. Propose a trade of more frequent sex per week and you giving her something she wants in exchange
9. Talk about whether she comes easily or at all, and what turns her on
10. Ask how you can make her (the woman) happier in and out of bed
11. Ask for a guided tour of her clitoris and how she likes to be stimulated
12. Discuss whether she needs more foreplay, and what kind
13. Don’t compete with her vibrator? Be a good friend with you
14. Buy a vibrator for her. Encourage her to use it, especially while you make love
15. Give her the book, "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man," so she understands how important sex is to a man, and how powerful she is in the relationship when she has enthusiastic sex with her Good Man.

First Be Yourself, Then Be Feminine

Best tip: be very feminine to attract men who are masculine and who are suffering from a lack of feminine women in the dating world because American men suffer from Feminine fever, the overwhelming attraction to a very feminine woman.

Some say that some American men suffer from "Yellow fever," and that that is why they are attracted to the Asian woman, for her exotic, Asian look. I do not believe this is true; these American men are not attracted to Asian women for their exotic or erotic Asian look (skin color, facial shape, slim body), but, rather, they are attracted to the Asian womans very feminine ways. If other women, of whatever ethnicity, race, or color, were to be more obviously and overtly feminine, American men would then suffer from Black fever, Brown fever, or White fever, the desire not for a particular race or skin color, but the desire for a feminine woman, of whatever race or skin color.

Here is the most important tip to help any woman be more feminine: First Be Yourself, Then Be Feminine

I do not suggest that all women become some idealized stereotype of "feminine." Even to have such a thought reminds me of The Stepford Wives, which was a novel and a movie in the 1970s and was remade as a movie in 2004. All of the wives in the town of Stepford are incredibly feminine (they do aerobics in high heels, for instance), but also incredibly passive and dominated by their husbands. No Good Woman American Geisha would want to be that robotic woman; nor would any truly Good Man want to be with a woman who is not her own real, happy, individual self.

Your options about how you identify yourself are, of course, almost limitless; so, too, are the ways to express your femininity within these many possible identities. "Be yourself" (your self) is good advice. Be real to the men (and to anyone else) you meet. Uncover for yourself and then share proudly with the world your best, truest, most womanly self.

As you read this article, continually think about and ask yourself, "What is my real self? Who am I? And how does "being more feminine apply to me?" Record some of your thoughts and associated feelings in a journal.

Py: How did you get your pen name as Maruerite Arotin?

Marguerite: My real name is Dana but when I decided to write romance, I always knew Dana would be too unisex for the romance market. So I thought about my nickname. My grandma used to call me Daisy and my hubby eventually picked it up too. Marguerite is french for Daisy and I'm part French so I loved that ;-). Arotin was my late mother-in-law's maiden name so I took the name in honor of her and plus it flowed nicely with Marguerite. I will be marketing all books under my pen name of Marguerite Arotin.

Py: When did you start reading romance novels?

Marguerite: It was just after I met my hubby that I picked up my very first romance novel. I think meeting someone so perfect for me taught me that true love does exist and that maybe those romance novels I always thought were so sappy could come true. But then I met Phil and the attraction hit me like a ton of bricks. I can't imagine any other guy who can fulfill my needs as much as he can and I wouldn't want to satisfy any other man but him. Since I was a bit of a history nut, I picked up a historical by Linda Lael Miller and then got addicted to the genre.

Believe it or not, prior to meeting my husband, Phillip, I was a bit of a young cynic when it came to romance and relationships. I met Phil when I was nineteen years old and prior to that, well I seemed to end up with a lot of jerks. At least I had a sense of humor of my unfortunate social life: I kept telling everyone I might as well adopt a bunch of cats and become the world's youngest spinster.

Py: What inspired you to write your romance story, The Locktender's Daughter?

Marguerite: It wasn't until the unthinkable happened, when my hubby lost his job and I just had a baby, that I even considered writing my own my romance novel. I've always loved local Ohio history. I would walk the old towpath trail wondering what life was like back when the mules pulled the boats through the murky canal water. I happened to find some notes for a story I wanted to write, a historical romance set along the Ohio & Erie canal, and decided I would write it. By the time my hubby found another job, I was too caught up in the story to stop writing. As I learned more about my craft, I realized how crappy the first MS I completed was and decided it wasn't worth revising. But that first story led to a sequel, called The Locktender's Daughter, and I loved that tale :-). I knew I didn't have enough experience yet to try a large print publishing house or even go for an agent, but I submitted my tale to a few e-book/POD presses and TheLocktender's Daughter found a home with Wings.

Py: Any tips for romance writers?
Marguerite: I've learned that everyone has their own writing techniques and they have to use what works best for them. Some people just allow the story to roam freely and other's tend to go all out and do full outlines. I do a mixture of both.

I want to add here is how important it is never to give up on your dream. It took me a good two years of submitting The Locktender's Daughter before I found a home for it. I knew I had a great story, I knew it my heart. I loved Bethany and Tyler too much to give up them. Writing is one of the toughest jobs out there and those rejection letters can hurt. But you have to put it aside and remember that people behind those rejection letters, agents, editors, etc, are not rejecting you and if you love your story and characters enough, you have to keep trying no matter what. I did and I found a great home for Bethany and Tyler :-).

Py: Your Contact Information and your giveaways to readers?:

Marguerite: My first historical romance novel will be published with Wings Press ( http://www.wings-press.com/) in May of next year. My site at http://www.ohioromance.net

As far as giveaways, I have the first three unedited chapters of The Locktender's Daughter posted at my website @ http://www.ohioromance.net/excerpts.htm
I've really got to update my page because it says that TLD is still in the hands of the editors at Wings and it's already been contracted. Guess when you spend too much time writing, you forget about simple things like remembering to update your site. I'll get it updated before Sunday. I do post free excerpts in my myspace blog from time to time and have been posting a lot lately from my teenage sorceress for my NANOWRIMO YA project. Also I will be running a contest around May in conjuction with the release of my story, I have no idea of what I'm going to do yet but it will probably have something to do with canal history :-).

With a happy, serene smile on my face and a sleepy, satiated look in my eyes, let me make clear to you, from my own earth-shattering personal experience and from my conclusive research, that the existence of the G-spot and female ejaculation is settled physiological fact, a discovery that can lead to the most intense pleasure and orgasmic release you will ever experience in your life! If thats not worth a heartfelt "Gee!" (as in "gee"-spot) I dont know what is.

In this blog, you will find and learn to stimulate your G-spot and will become that most feminine and sexual of American Geisha: a female ejaculator, a "shooter."

Let me start by clearing up a commonly held misconception: The ejaculate you forcefully emit is a clear, somewhat sweet liquid that I call Gräfenberg Juice (after the doctor who clinically identified the G-spot). It is definitely not urine or even remotely related to urine.

The G-spot and female ejaculation really do exist. I know. Im a female ejaculator, a "shooter." If you, dear Younger Sister, are among those who are still unconvinced of this physio-sexual reality, this will be a life-changing chapter for you. Your sex life will never be the same, my oh so fortunate reader. I want to clearly convey to you my experience with female ejaculation, hoping that as I express myself you will both recognize the reality of this phenomenon and begin to imagine the possibilities for yourself. Here I tell my story in an open, explicit way that makes you feel like you are there, almost experiencing my ejaculation yourself.

Sometimes my husband, Rich, and I will be making love without any intention of my ejaculating, and then the idea will strike one of us. Well start to adjust our lovemaking to go in the direction of having a "shooting" orgasm, as we usually call it. Other times Rich might say, "Tonight is your night, baby. I want you to shoot into my mouth." That excites me. But we never put pressure on me to ejaculate. Its perfectly okay with both of us if I dont. A lot of trust is involved in a G-spot, shooting orgasm, especially when you are doing it the first few times.

You have to trust yourself that you can do it (but with no pressure). You have to trust that your partner will not have a negative reaction. At one point youll have to trust that the familiar feelings of needing to pee are in fact the feelings of imminent female ejaculation, not at all related to peeing.

I adapted this part from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (published by Hunter House). Due to Myspace policy (too graphic with x-rated), I cant post any further about "A Most Outrageous Description of My Ejaculation". But you can find more about from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha.

As part of my research, I asked both men and women what makes a woman feminine and sexy. I simply asked respondents what they felt made a woman feminine and sexy.

Here are some of their responses:

"She is receptive to a mans suggestions and plans."

"The flirting, the teasing, the suggestion."

"She is comfortable being sexually provocative in her appearance."

"She falls in love with me after she has a huge orgasm."

"She is outrageous and sexy on the outside and inside."

"She isnt afraid of public affection."

"She has a voyeuristic side to her."

"She uses a few explicit words in the heat of passion."

"She knows what pleases a man and herself."

"She has a way of carrying herself."

"She drips with sexuality."

"She smells good, looks good, and sounds good."

"She is appreciative of whatever I do."

 "Its her way of talking to you or looking at you."

"Its her smile."

"She uses her eyes to connect to you."

"She shows her emotions."

"She has poise."

"She laughs freely and loudly and enjoys life."

"She satisfies her mans fantasies."

"She accepts me for who I am."

"She doesnt take life too seriously."

 "Shes a little bit playful."

"She is confident in her beauty."

 "She is beautiful and exciting to look at."

"She is a ferocious feline in bed."

"She tells me what she likes [sexually]."

"She screams [during sex]."

"She gets excited [sexually]."

"She never pushes me away [sexually]."

"She never uses sex for power."

 "She is shy and naïve outside; inside, she has a huge sexual desire."

"She is sexual, sensual, and erotic."

"Her clothing slightly reveals some of her body."

"She gives a hint of what lies underneath her clothes."

"She is smolderingly sexy, but always classy, in public."

"She is responsive to the slightest touch."

"She easily reaches multiple orgasms."

"She is extremely oral, both giving and receiving."

"She has highly responsive nipples."

Adapted from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (published by Hunter House)

You may imagine that agreeing to have sex before you have a monogamous commitment from a man could lead to the commitment you seek. Wrong. If he gets to have sex with you before commitment, you lose some of your power to get him to commit. After all, why should he commit further if hes already having sex with you? Yes, you may answer, but with sexual intimacy hell fall for me even more. Wrong again. With sexual intimacy before commitment, all you know is that his manhood is in love with your vagina. You are beautiful, feminine, and have a gorgeous, fully shaved vagina. Of course, hes in love with your sexual organs! What man wouldnt be? But you want his love for you to come before his love for your sexual organs.

By the way, "instant commitments" dont count. If youve teased him to the point of nakedness or of being only an undergarment away from nakedness, and then ask him, "You do love me, dont you?" do not be fooled by the answer "Of course I do." That is his manhood talking. At this point his brain has been kidnapped by his throbbing manhood. All his brain blood now resides in his swollen one, and his is totally in charge of what his mouth says. "Of course I love you" means "Of course I love your sexual organs." If you let a Good Man have sex with you before commitment, you risk losing that Good Man because you were too easy; you werent selective or demanding enough.

Be patient. Get the commitment first. You need to have sex only with a committed Good Man.

It may take you several weeks or several months of dating a man to determine whether you want to have sex with him. This is not an unreasonable time frame for such an important decision. Again, it is totally appropriate to share your thoughts with a man regarding your qualifications of a Good Man and your fundamental needs. Also discuss how he sees your relationship, both now and in the future. If you decide that sex with this man is appropriate for you, then mutually commit to monogamy and go for it. If he is unwilling to commit to monogamy, do not agree to have sex with him.

Adapted from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (published by Hunter House)

Nothing makes your Good Man feel better about himself as a man than to know that he inspired and created the orgasm experienced by this wonderful, beautiful, sexual woman, you, his Good Woman. Nothing.

Your Good Man could receive a million-dollar bonus or be promoted early or be acclaimed as an outstanding architect. Any of those events would no doubt make him feel great. But when he makes you come on his manhood, tongue, or fingers, nothing else (not money, not promotion, not acclaim) makes him feel so great as a man. Let me say it again because it is so important to your long-term, loving relationship. When you enthusiastically and consistently give your Good Man complete credit for your orgasm, he will never leave you, because he feels"you make him feel"so incredibly good as a man.

As a general rule, be noisy in bed. As I said a few paragraphs ago, let him know that you are really into sex with him, that you are his enthusiastic lover. Tell him how good you feel. Moan. Breathe heavily. Scream. The verbal feedback he gets from you not only lets him know he is pleasing you mightily, but also excites him and gets him harder. And it encourages him to give you even more of his, which will drive you even crazier, until you come and make him so happy. Beyond "happy," your feedback makes him so proud of himself, so proud of his manhood. Youve made him feel fantastic as a man.

Caution. Much as we women may think that men can be insensitive at times, there is one area in which a man is very sensitive: the extent of your enthusiasm for sex with him. A Good Man wants you to be into sex with him. If he senses a lack of real enthusiasm and passion from you, he will be dissatisfied with the sex the two of you have. Let your passion and enthusiasm be sincere and clearly expressed, so that he feels your total involvement in sex with him.

Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, Hunter House Publishers. Looking for relationship, dating and sex tips? Visit Pys website at http://www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com

From the earliest days of dating your Good Man through years of marriage to him, it is inherent in his being a man that he constantly risks rejection by you. Early in the relationship you may turn down a date, not want to go to the restaurant or movie he suggests, refuse his good-night kiss (even on the third date, as I foolishly did to the man I later married), not let him come into your home, not want to have sex. Your Good Man has the courage to keep taking the initiative with you, proposing things to you that you might turn down, thereby rejecting him in the process of rejecting his idea or suggestion.

Respect your Good Mans courage in the lifelong journey of risk-taking that he embarks on with you. It takes balls to be a man. Real nerve. Respect that. Even after you are together, even married, his risk-taking continues. A mans life always involves a risk of rejection. Its bad enough that he faces that risk at work (as do you, too, of course), but he also faces it at home, even from you, his Good Woman who loves and respects him.

At work, a man may risk rejection (of an idea, a project, a request, a report, an opinion) that could negatively impact how he feels about himself as a man. However, a mans greatest psychological vulnerability is not the risk of rejection at work, but the risk of rejection at home, from you, his Good Woman. A mans ego is most vulnerable when, after you have established a sexual relationship, he tells you that he wants to make love to you. At that point you hold his ego in your hands.

If you refuse his invitation or request for sex, you may think that you refused for some objective reason, such as the late hour, illness, chores that need doing, your own distractedness, not enough time, hunger, the babys diaper, not in the mood, or a hundred other reasonable scenarios that preclude lovemaking at that moment. If he were to ask why, youd say, "Nothing personal; its just ___________ (fill in the blank)." You probably wouldnt see it as a big deal. "Well make love later," youd probably think, if you thought about it any more at all.