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4/27/2006 - So pissed

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Have any of you had a situation like this?:

My best friend in the whole world, well one of them, has met this guy online at myspace.com. I do not know if any of you know of myspace, but it is a online community with groups, blogs, and other things. Sorta like bolt.com or bolt2.com.

Anyway, she met some "cute" dude on there and he is telling her (now get this) to gain weight! My friend is already morbidly obese. She weighs near 350, has diabetes, lung problems, and several other health problems. This worries me because he wants her to weigh 650 (which is super obese). If she weighs 650 she will not be able to do the most remedial of tasks. This scares me.

So today (with my luck) I had my Biology II class. I greatly respect my Biology II teacher. He is very wise and knows what he is talking about. I have lots of fun in his class learning about the different systems in the body. So I talked to him after class and explained the situation. He basically told me that:

This guy is trying to make her kill herself.
He wants her to become so dependent on him that even if he abused her, she would stay with him.

I agree. I told ya'll my professor is smart.

Anyway, on the way home from school I called her and told her I was pissed off. Because I truly love those friends and best friends who are close to me and she is one of them. We met at a chef's conference and hit it off from there. I love her not only as a friend but as girlfriend too. (Yes, I am bi!) I told her I was so concerned that I had talked to my professor and she is going to handle it.

The thing that frightened me is that she drank, get this, 8 oz of butter on a dare. That's not healthy. It really isn't. I don't even have that much in a month, two weeks at least. This guy is dangerous and it really scares me because I don't want to have to go to an obese clinic to see her. Obesity scares me so much. That is why I am going to lose weight. (Notice I did not say try because according to my professor trying is giving 10% effort.) That is why I am getting trained by a personal trainer. That is why I am trying to get to the gym as much as possible.

So tell me everyone...what is your advice?

Blessings

Serenity

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4/27/2006 - hmm

Posted by Anonymous

you're obviously a great friend.however, do you realise that just by one entry, anyone reading can blatently tell that you are either sleeping with, or want to sleep with your professor. You seek approval and attention with your blatant statement of "YES, I am bi!" I don't have a problem with your choice of sexuality, it's just that people who are genuinally comfortable with that choice, and who will keep it as a lifestyle for ever, do not feel the need to state it, inform everyone and do not even think of noting it as it simply comes naturally to them.
sometimes reading your entries a while after you've written them really shows you how insecure you were when you were convinced you had it in control. god bless, be you, not who you think will make you popular.

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4/27/2006 - Advice

Posted by SilverWind

First of all Mr or Ms Anonymous the fact that you would leave a critizizing and insulting comment without leaving your name tells me you are really just a pussy who is afried to tell people to their face what you really think and it is easy for you to talk smack when hiding behind a computer screen.
P.S. I am Bi, and I do not care who knows it or what they think.

Now to the point at hand, it is a very difficult situation which you are dealing with here, and the worse part is there is really very little that you can do. You can tell your friend how you feel, give her your support and advice her the best you can, but beyound that she is an adult and she will ultimately have to decide for herself what she is going to do. You cannot force her not to talk to this guy and there is really nothing illegal going on at this point.

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4/27/2006 - Advice

Posted by Anonymous

i'm puzzled by the fact your friend would accept ANYONE telling her what weight he "wants" her at. The weight you are shouldn't be influenced by anyone accept yourself.
You seem like a lovely friend, just make sure she doesn't get so excited by the prospect of a 'cute' guy liking her that she does anything to conform to his wishes.
guys like that do prey on vunrable women (the fact she did the butter thing kinda makes you think she must be pretty vunrable to wanting approval). for all she knows, this guy is probably not even interested in her. chances are he thinks it's funny to mess with a 'fat chick's head'. yes, people actually are that cruel, maybe you should remind her of that. good on you for supporting her.
- alice (australia)

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4/28/2006 - Response to.....So pissed

Posted by Heather

Well myspace.com has been getting loads of bad press lately, pedophiles etc etc. she should not take his advice at all. I cannot conceive of how this man can act so irresponsibly. She should lose weight under board certified doctor's guidence and perhaps a registered dietician also board certified. She is your friend and I applaud your concern, I strongly urge you to counsel her against this man's advice and also to avoid myspace.com....i see it as a communtity of freaks, geeks and weirdos some of which may be dangerous. I hope and pray all goes well for you and your friend. I like this blog community, for the most part it has decent people here

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